First of all, bless you for having that mindset. I couldn’t possibly understand getting upset that you’d want to return the favor, or that you wanting to please her as well means that you didnt enjoy it.

Do you offer because you’re turned on and genuinely want to make her feel good, or is your offer more based in the tit for tat mentality? Maybe it feels transactional to her if you always offer right after.

If it does bother her so much, maybe you can talk about it and ask her to request it when she wants it if she doesn’t already . Or, instead of offering right after, save it for later and surprise her so that it doesn’t seem obligatory, is that is in fact her issue here.

I guess another way to look at this is that you aren’t taking anything from her, she’s giving it to you, presumably because it makes her happy to please you. That can be satisfying in and of itself for the giver. I think communication about this stuff is key, just keep checking in here and there and enjoy

Watanabe made Samurai Champloo too! True masterpieces. This is super exciting

Hahaha sick I’ll try to check them out, so curious about the sound

Lol aw man I’m definitely getting old; I remember when Skrillex came out and kinda ruined the genre tbh, it was so totally different when it first emerged, it actually sounded like dub. So I’m not familiar with any of those guys, they were after my time.

I think it probably depends on the listener but yeah, if I try to listen to most mid 80s hip hop, it’s so rudimentary that it’s really hard for me to a tuslly get into. Like Run DMC, or NWA. I can get into NWA but the novelty runs out quickly so I can only listen to them very rarely. But there are a lot of newer bands that I hear and say “I’ve already heard x y and z do this better” so it’s hard to get excited about new stuff too. If you are a really avid music listener I think it has to take something exceptional coming out to really get impressed by

Pshhhh get me some molly and that song will still go so hard lol

Wow, that’s fucked. Was the dudes name Randy or something? I think I vaguely remember hearing about that

Oooo I wanna check it out! Who should I search for?

Oh man for whatever reason this is a top tier cringe band from my teen years lol. Used to jam them on my discman on my way to PE

Cinematic masterpiece

Edit: actually this one is the cinematic masterpiece. I actually do wanna go to the Gathering

I’m curious what old songs you might be thinking of? I was a wannabe raver in middle school and an actual one at the end of highschool lol. I may know what’s up

Haha that was one of my first CDs as well. Loved that shit

Nice, good to know they’ve still got it. I got to see them once waaaay back, like 2004 or something for the Subliminal Verses tour I believe.

I got to see them perform with Lingua Ignota, weirdest combo ever.

Hahaha damn you roasted them so hard. True I guess I don’t see too many people repping them, I just know they played Madison Square Garden with Scowl, though, so I assumed it’s what you whippersnappers are into

Hahaha Ive had Blind stuck in my head for like 3 days. I stopped listening to them when I was still in highschool but have dabbled in the past year or two and it’s such a good nostalgia hit

Oooo yeah good point

Fuck yeah, trying to intimidate writers by dragging out negotiations til they lose their homes is disgusting. Glad that actors are stepping up

Recipe please! That sounds amazing

Well it used to be slipknot/KoRn/Limp Bizkit etc etc, but now nu metal is cool with all the zoomers, so I’m no longer embarrassed of being a nu metal kid. It’s been pretty cool to reconnect with that stuff without fear! Tbh there are a lot of KoRn tracks that slap, and you can hear their influence in a lot of the underground metal music I listen to. The band chat pile that’s pretty popular right now cites KoRn as an influence. Limp Bizkit is still preeeeeetty fuckin bad though. I fuck with some tracks off of 3 Dollar Bill Y’all$, but so much of it is just corny as hell. System of a Down was always considered dope so they don’t count

Congrats! Thick leather gloves are fantastic for thorns, so that’s what I would recommend. I’m a glutton for punishment, though, and when I don’t have my leather gloves I’ll still dig through thorny plants, albeit veeeery gently. That’s normally if I’m just pruning small patches of blackberry or roses, though and also I’m a masochist lol.

If a ton of the thorny plants are blackberry, it might be a good idea to hire someone to clear it. I’ve never done so but they are voracious growers. You may know this, but any branch that touches the ground can put off new roots and grow even more and so on. Unless you can dig out all of the roots, just going through and cutting is a losing game, unless you get it cut back to where it’s manageable and you don’t mind pruning regularly.

As for garden clippings, composting is the way. You do want to make sure that you aren’t getting any weeds in your compost, though, otherwise they will profilerate and your compost soil will just spread more weeds. Again, you may know this, but for browns, save any unbleached paper that you can. Torn up cardboard, newspaper, napkins,coffee filters, paper grocery bags, chopped up twigs/wood chips/shavings, dryer Lint. If you can shred your brown foliage that’s great as well. If there is a farm/feed store somewhat close to you, you can buy straw for fairly cheap and that will last forever depending on the size of the compost pile.

Also, if you can look into native flowers for your area and scatter a ton of seed once you’ve cleared out weeds, they can help to eventually keep the weed population under control. Clover helps with this, too and can be good ground cover. Just wanna make sure it’s not invasive in your area and it doesn’t choke out your natives