• Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    12
    ·
    edit-2
    4 months ago

    So I went to see friends last night, I always look forward to seeing the wife of the couple, she’s becoming a good friend and I hope I am a friend to her. The guy is a childhood friend of my husband.

    And the guys grew up being the smartest person at school and they are both pretty successful in their sci or math respective fields.

    here’s the thing, the men both treat me like an idiot, or should I say, they both expend quite a bit of energy to keep me in my place

    and I really don’t give a shit,

    but I noticed the guy treats his wife just as poorly as he treats me, worse since it’s all the time. At first I thought it was just explaining a difficult scientific subject but it’s everything she does.

    She’s a highly educated and experienced lawyer who is fluent in 3 languages. She’s no idiot. And even if she was you don’t talk to people like that.

    It just saddens me.

    and doesn’t surprise me, rude men tend to hang with other rude men

    all I can do is continue be a friend with her

      • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        7
        ·
        edit-2
        4 months ago

        I agree and insecurity is crazy. This guy has a phd in sciences. What would it take to make him feel secure.

        I suppose I can answer that. Controlling and keeping intelligent women in their place.

        So why doesn’t he marry uneducated women? I suppose because it makes him feel smart to control a smart woman and he wouldn’t feel smart to control an uneducated woman.

        Always, always there’s an undercurrent of physical intimidation in these cases. 😡 It’s subtle tho.

        • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          5
          ·
          4 months ago

          Men like that are the worst form of coward. I’ve encountered them before, and they quickly receed when challenged by another man.

          Disgusting.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      7
      ·
      4 months ago

      Those guys sound very unpleasant to hang around with.

      I hate people who look down on others and do that, it’s yucky and demeaning.

      They probably bask in their own superiority and have known nothing else through their life and thus treat everyone else like that.

      Not much you can do about it since one of them are married to your friend but it’s yucky.