• Fest@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    thank you for telling us how good having a kid can be, when nost people just think of the bad that kids can bring to their parents life

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      1 year ago

      But he doesn’t have a kid yet, just an expectation.

      I’m all for optimism, but always be aware that children might not meet your expectations. There’s a family with 3 severely autistic kids, all of them need constant supervision and can’t do anything themselves.

      Be excited about kids, but also mindful that it is going to take a lot from your life.

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        1 year ago

        I’m totally aware it’s not all going to be perfect all the time, if ever, because that’s not how life works.

        But I definitely already feel unconditional love for the little thing. And I feel like it’s giving my wife and I a different kind of purpose in life.

        My mom told me once that the unconditional love is hard, especially when life gets difficult. But the proudness she feels and the fulfillment having kids brought to her life is indescribable.

        It’s not for everyone, but for those who enjoy it find more fulfillment than any singular other life pursuit could bring.

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          1 year ago

          I love hearing all your positive attitude, and wish you all the best. I truly wish you have the best kid in the world, and I hope you both make each other the best version of yourselves. Have a good day.