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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • If you have a salary that’s in the hundreds of thousands and you think that you’re doing well? You’re just not very poor. You’re basically a slave. You’re a slave with bells and whistles.

    Poor isn’t a measure of wealth compared to others. It also means “with less resources than you need to survive in a healthy way”. For most people $100k/year will let you survive in a healthy way. Above a certain dollar figure, having more money doesn’t let you live better, it just gets spent on unnecessary crap (or stacked up and hoarded).


  • The only big loss was the money that went to the wedding.

    I learned recently the cost to getting married in my state and county is $60 ($20 for the license and $40 for the officiant to marry you and process the license to probate). That is less money than it cost for 2 tickets to see an evening movie and get concession stand food. I had no idea getting married could cost so little.





  • Did you just Google “Local Speed Dating” or something?

    Yep. There are usually companies that put these on, and as its their business, it will be the same companies doing many sessions throughout the year.

    I wasn’t sure if Speed Dating was still a thing (since I did it years ago), and I find it is still a thing!

    There’s one tonight in Los Angeles:

    But also midwest towns. Here’s one in Des Moines Iowa 2 days from now:


  • I give my mom credit. In the 80’s she found summer classes for me where I could learn about programming.

    In the early 80s we we NOT well off. However, our entire household chose to go without christmas (and went into debt) to buy a Commodore 64 computer. It allowed me to experiment, make mistakes, and learn in a safe environment. When I started using computers in school was already very comfortable with it. When I started in the working world, I was not only comfortable, but highly knowledgeable about using and fixing computers.

    My sibling and I are both successful IT professionals. I absolutely attribute having that computer (even a very under powered c64) in the house growing up.


  • Introvert here. I met my now introvert wife at speed dating.

    If you haven’t done it before, you are in a room (usually a rented out restaurant so its just for this event) with lots of tables. At each table is a woman. As a man, you are directed to sit at a specific numbered table where there is a woman seated (all the other men do the same to the individual table they are directed to). A bell rings. You have 5 minutes to talk to each other and learn as much as you can about each other. After 5 minutes, the bell rings, and the woman stay seated, and the man moves to the next higher numbered table. You have a card with the woman’s name on it and you should REALLY make notes, because you won’t remember which things you thought with each person. The women do the same with their cards.

    In under 2 hours each person now talked to 14-18 potential mates. At the end of the night you go online and mark which of the women you’re interested in hearing more from. If any of the women you mark also mark you on their side, you’re given an in-app communications channel and you can choose to share personal contact information from there.

    When you’re sitting at the table talking with a woman sometimes it seems like that bell rings as soon as you sit down and you wish you had more time. Those are the ones you mark on your card to talk more with. Sometimes, you’re 1 minute in and you’re dreading waiting though the next 4 min. Those you do not mark.

    I’d recommend you give Speed Dating a try.