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  • Their circle of friends may not be like yours.

    I know plenty of people like what you are describing (always near at least one phone), but they are still impossible to reach quickly. Even when they expect a call, they can have their phone in Do Not Disturb mode. Or they ran out of battery, and didn’t think to turn it on after plugging it in. Most of the time I have no idea what the issue is.

    Also, he might live in an area with few options. Specially on short notice. Maybe the closest alternative with a somewhat similar style is far away, so even if you can get a reservation , not everybody will be able to get there before dinner time.

    Basically, when he says it’s hard for him, maybe just trust that he knows his life better than you do.




  • I could, but that’s not the point. The point is that someone posted a picture of some text, without any sources. And that when someone asks for a shred of proof, some people don’t get why. This is very important.

    And this is what I’m trying to tell you, and anyone else reading. A picture of text is not reliable, and it does not help that there’s also a picture of someone you trust. The guy asking for proof is the sensible voice, not the voice of a person with issues.




  • I spent a few minutes researching this, and I still have no idea what the problem is. Or any motivation to keep researching.

    Honestly, I might be part of the problem. I’m a white guy, and there are basically no black people in my life. I don’t see any in the streets, at work, at home or here. Especially here, I have no idea who anyone is.

    Basically, I have no reason to get involved. However, I don’t want to be part of the problem. So if you spoonfeed me information I can use to make life better for “the blackness” (I’m very confused about the terminology), I will happily read it and try to remember it.

    So don’t just tell me the solution, none of the TLDR makes any sense to me. Spend a few words on the problem.

    As far as I can tell, there’s basically two kinds of people:

    1 - People who just don’t care about other people in the Fediverse. They will not read any of this, there’s nothing you can write here that will change anything for them.

    2 - People who are trying to be nice, but don’t always succeed. They will listen to advice, but nothing will change by telling them to be nice, be less racist, or to listen to people even if they are black. That’s what they are already trying to do.