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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • All the time. If it’s a company I dislike and I see them advertising on Google, I know I’m costing them money. Google uses an auction house system for ads, so common words can have a lot of competition. You could be making that company pay a dollar or more for that click, and at the same time contribute to a headache for their marketers who are keeping a close eye on their cost per click and customer acquisition costs.

    Yeah, google wins in this scenario too, but there’s not much I can do about that.








  • I once looked at a job listing for something with very specialist technical knowledge in specific programming areas, for a Japanese company based in Tokyo (pre-covid so remote wasn’t really a thing yet). Pretty niche stuff and needed at least basic Japanese language skills too, so I assumed it would pay ok - even if it wasn’t good or great in comparison with jobs where i was.

    After conversion it worked out to be around USD$40k a year, which is probably just over 1/3 of what it would pay at minimum elsewhere. More like 1/4 or less for Silicon Valley type locations, but the rent for a tiny Tokyo shoebox is about the same price even if food is a cheaper. There was no way I was applying for that.

    It isn’t just about a weak yen, it’s much more about hugely underpaying people.





  • I very much understand this feeling. There’s plenty of things I do for the same safety of nostalgia reason. It’s not altogether a bad coping mechanism, but like every coping mechanism, it has its limits, and you have found them.

    I do have some good news for you though:

    and realise that ever since that day years ago where I finally made it back to a normal life, I’ve only made 2 new core memories really.

    This may not be true at all. People have trouble recalling memories of feeling differently to however they’re currently feeling, especially with depression. Good memories are still being created and are in there though, you just can’t access them in long storage right now. Another person in the thread said therapy and the right medication, and that is how I’ve largely managed to get depression mostly under control. When I’m doing well, the good memories are much easier to relive. Memory is complicated like that.

    I still eat a diet of mostly instant noodles and other cheap shit

    I recommend starting here though. Even if it’s just adding in a daily multivitamin at first instead of really being healthy and eating right. The cheap nostalgic food is not something you need to completely give up, but it needs to be a treat instead of your staple. Nutrition has a huge impact on depression, like, an annoying amount of impact. If you can get some better nutrition in you, and a little real sunlight, and even just a short walk, your body is much more likely to generate and circulate the good feeling hormones. It’s hard at first, but it does get easier.

    You’ve been through a lot. There’s nothing pathetic about how you feel or your life. There is no such thing as “behind”. New friends are everywhere, and many have been through similar hard times and depression. But it does sound a lot like you would benefit from a little more balance with the things you already know are good for you.

    Good luck. The past is comfortable, but there are new things out there that will bring you comfort too, and they’re worth looking for.








  • Even if we ignored the entire history of the word cripple, it still would be remarkable to not consider hunchback or dwarf as physical descriptions. Given that your next question references video games and then we fall down Godwin’s slippery slope, I’m not convinced you’re honestly engaging with the concept of connotation.

    the words only have deragatory meaning to those who have decided they are such.

    Yes, and when the people who have to live with the consequences of discrimination tell you that you’re speaking in the same way as those who have discriminated against them, it’s worth considering. Even momentarily.

    Have a great day, I’m going to go be a cripple elsewhere now. Nah, just kidding, it will still be my couch. Just not this thread.