Think about the words you and other people use and what they actually mean. Are you using a word that refers to a certain group of people who are part of some marginalised group? “Gay” used to be a very common insult, particularly in South Park. What about “lame”, “dumb”, “tard”, etc.

I pretty much use it as a replacement for LGBTQIA+, but keep in mind that not everyone may consider themselves queer; it /is/ a reclaimed word after all, so people may have trauma related to it.

I don’t know if this is helpful, but I searched for “trans friendly doctors” and found some good doctors in my area.

Yeah labels also help me, esp since it makes it easier to find people who feel a similar way.

Non-binary exists, just mentioning that “boy” and “girl” aren’t the only labels.