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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • i am going to tell you some universal truths.

    1. first truth: you will not fully understand these truths. though i list them here clearly, you will still learn them the hard way.

    2. do not compare yourself to others. regardless of how you measure their success, you will find only a brief moment of satisfaction upon outdoing them, followed swiftly by regret, insecurity, and, not long after that, emotional crisis.

    3. financial and professional success are antithetical to happiness and fulfillment at least as often as they aren’t.

    4. you can only ever know yourself. everyone’s life is a series of choices. only you can know what choices are the right ones for you. you cannot know anyone else’s choices. you cannot know if anyone else is making the right or wrong choices. you cannot know what motivates others. your dataset for anyone else is so incomplete as to prevent the drawing of any good conclusions. no good reason to compare yourself to anyone. but when you do, there’s no good reason to feel bad about it, or good about it, and certainly no good reason to feel bad instead of good.

    5. what follows is a cliche, but it is not a cliche: your life begins now, and now, and now. you can only do something now. not back then and not in a bit. now. really understand this. if you’re not happy now, it’s because you keep doing things that make you unhappy. now, if you’re not happy now, it’s because you’re still not doing anything to make yourself happy. what are you doing to make yourself unhappy?

    6. you’re making yourself unhappy. it’s not them making you unhappy. they might be doing things you’re not happy with, but you’re the one doing unhappiness. now, if you want to bank all your happiness and fulfillment on outdoing these people, that’s fine, but it’s going to be awhile. years, decades, you’re entire life, perhaps. but, don’t forget number 2: happiness can’t be found on this route. i wonder what it would look like, what choices you’d have to make, to be happy, and much sooner?

    let me know how it goes. also, apologies for the length. it’s all stream of consciousness and i’m to lazy to edit.

    homework: read The Tao of Pooh

    ❤️


  • browsing r/atheism is like being run over by a truck full of middle schoolers who got lost on their way to bully kids at the park because they’ve never touched a boob. like bumping up against their teacher’s armpit makes them better than everyone else. the fundamental core of the subreddit is rotten and needs to be scrapped entirely.

    if you want this to be a good group, one that appeals to thoughtful, interesting, and cool people, instead of stuck-up, gatekeeping dorks who do nothing but shit on religion all day (we get it, we are all atheists, you’re preaching to the choir), it’s gotta be the opposite of r/atheism. that is, be a community that is home to atheists, one where any and all topics can be discussed, rather than a community about atheism, where atheism is the single focus. in the former, i can talk with members of my atheist community about a movie i enjoyed; in the latter, i can only talk about atheism. in the former, i can talk with my atheist online friends about this wonderful book i’m reading. in the latter, i can only talk about atheism. you get the point.

    good luck, have fun

    p.s. sorry to end this so abruptly. things need doing, and i think i made myself clear enough. <3