UPDATE: I had already booked a second apartment for the festival. I wrote my friend (26M) before that I didn’t really know if it was a good idea to go to the festival with them. (I also wrote her) He reassured my decision to go with them with the simple statement “I think we can manage this”. So I cancelled my single apartment and went with them and the other girl. It went pretty much how I expected it. I discovered the festival on my own and spent most of the time with other people I know and the girl I didn’t know before. The two (20F and 26M) spent almost all time together, so I spent most of the time we were together with the other girl. Also, another couple came on the day before the last day and spent the night at our place. This was another opportunity to spend the night with other people and reconnect.

I’m feeling the same. I don’t blame them though. It’s not an easy situation and people cope differently. Right now I’m the only person that can do anything about it and I decided to postpone this step into the future.

I don’t think the festival will be a problem. We’re staying in an apartement where I’ve got my own room. There’s another girl I don’t really know with us, but she seems friendly. Also there are about 30 people from my area at the festival. Some I know better, some less. So there will be a lot of time and opportunities to connect with other people. I plan not to focus too much on her.

Also I booked the apartment back in January and it’s probably too late to ask other people if I can come with them, so I’m making the best of it.

You summed up pretty good how I feel about all this. The only thing missing is that I didn’t quite know how to tell her exactly that a friendship is not possible for me right now.