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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • Oof, sorry you’re having such a rough time right now. I wouldn’t feel too bad about the woman you had to leave behind though. Because relationships are a two-way street and she has to put some effort in too. If she didn’t fight for you or try to figure out a way to make it work for you both, then she wasn’t prioritizing the relationship anyway. As an example, my partner and I lived at least 1000 miles from anyone we knew and we had no support system. When my partner, who was the breadwinner at the time, lost her job, we together found a new solution. Yes, it meant picking up and moving across the country again in less than a year, but the alternative was homelessness. Never once was our relationship on the line, even if our housing was. There’s someone out there who thinks being apart from you is the worst life choice ever, so don’t miss her by being sad about the ones who aren’t her.


  • The only way to not repeat this is to learn from it. I’m a big proponent of “attract, don’t chase.” When you are the absolute best version of yourself, happily doing your own thing and living your best life, people find that attractive. Try to volunteer or go to hobby events/shops, you’re going to find people who like what you like and try to find a relationship that is a positive feedback loop. I think you should want to do everything in your power to make your partner happy because their happiness brings you joy and your partner should feel the same about you. Boost each other until you both reach your goals.










  • You aren’t stupid, you’re naive at best, and that’s something you can build from. You can’t teach someone how to have a good heart. So don’t take this as a huge blow (emotionally, financially it’s ok to feel like this was a huge blow if you couldn’t really afford it) and just take this as a lesson in learning to filter out those who genuinely need help and those who don’t. If you really couldn’t afford it, yeah file a police report. Not sure if you’ll get your money back, but it might stop the scammers from doing it again to some other nice people.

    When I was a younger person, I was broke as all hell. But I managed to have an extra $5 that I was going to use for a nice lunch. (The first time I hadn’t skipped lunch in ages!) At the gas station, a guy approached me and pulled on the heartstrings. I even said, “this is my last $5.” He had absolutely no qualms about ripping out of my hand and driving away in his car that CLEARLY had enough gas in it for him to get away and wasn’t completely empty as he had told me minutes before. Lesson learned.

    Good people in genuine dire straits, don’t personally ask a stranger online for money. That’s why places like GoFundMe exist. If you want to make your local community better, walk around with an extra sandwich in your lunch box and give it to a different homeless person everyday. Pretty much never ever give money and only offer food and company.