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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • The cocktail-averse I know all seem to like:

    Margarita

    Paloma

    Pineapple, whiskey and lime

    Mojito

    You do not need to enjoy cocktails, there is plenty of other food and drink to build a palate, but if you want to learn to like the spirits and liqueurs in them, fizzy water is a way - I find whiskey & tequila in particular too strong to be able to taste and enjoy them, and most liqueurs way too sweet, but one shot in a glass of Topo Chico or other good fizzy water to dilute them? That lets me actually taste what people enjoy about them. Which then lets me think about what I might like them mixed with.

    And I would like to plug !cocktails@lemmy.world we can make recommendations based on what you already like.


  • It’s harder to think about “enough” in places like India (or even the US) where there is so much inequality.

    But I would define “enough” as comfortable. Not worried about bills, buying whatever groceries you want, a good living situation and enough cushion that an emergency won’t make you homeless.

    The addiction to more, more, more is a disorder like hoarding is.



  • There are two answers for me. Sometimes I stop and think my way out of it and am ok after a couple hours, I can let it go.

    Sometimes I just get angrier and angrier as I think about it, and in that situation I must talk to the other party. That usually takes a day or two because it takes me that long to realize I’m not gonna calm down, am still mad. But every time this has happened, the other party has apologized because they, in the same intervening time, have realized they were being asshole-ish.

    Nobody I know takes that long to tell me, if I am being asshole-ish. It can take me an hour or so to calm down and apologize.

    All of this assumes good intentions on all sides. My ex, you couldn’t back down or apologize with him, he saw it as weakness and would mock, was terrible at fighting.











  • Oh, Mr. Flickerman. Old people have sex. More than young people since now not as many distractions, no young kids or chance of pregnancy. I think a better way to express this is, it’s not important as long as it’s not a problem. I agree the friendship part is more important, but having a similar sex drive makes everything work better, and sex is not a silly thing to need in a romantic relationship, it’s not a frivolous extra.


  • Because you are in the middle of nowhere? There are so many people in the world, I cannot imagine nobody is into you. Above I see you say something about “people like you” but you seem to be able to communicate well and keep your cool, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys.

    If you are around 40, it’s a pretty good age for looking for a partner. A lot of movement in the market, for lack of a better term.

    If you want to hook up, get out there and talk to people. If you literally just want sex and not relationship, I can guarantee you that somewhere someone will be thrilled to break you in, no question. Anything you can imagine, someone gets off on it.

    If you want a whole different life and sex is just part of what you are dissatisfied with, that is up to you to change - the point of power is always in the now. It doesn’t matter who you were, and while there are outside forces, you can do a lot to change your own life.