It’s a sunny day, we’re outside, good mood, drinking a coffee. I try to strike a conversation, my gf says its too early for philosophical discussions. I tell her we can instead talk about whatever she feels like. She says she doesn’t want to talk about anything. We weirdly sit in silence for a while. I tell her it’s weird to me, we argue. Is this normal?

  • Tenshi@lemmy.worldOP
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    1 year ago

    Tbh your comments sound pretty pushy. Have you noticed you start your statements with a generalization and an attack? “You’re somebody who thinks…”

    Also, I didn’t get the classification bit. What do you mean?

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      1 year ago

      Your comments about your girlfriend come off a little like that. I already commented, but didn’t address that because I didn’t know how to. I read this commenter as trying to communicate that, but without telling you, it’s unhelpful.

      It does feel like you’re trying to read something about society into her preference to wake up quietly, but her preferences are as individual as yours.

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      1 year ago

      I’m sorry, I thought you came here for advice.

      Also, I didn’t get the classification bit. What do you mean?

      Your GF tells you it’s philosophical. People here tell you it’s philosophical. You think we’re all wrong.

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          1 year ago

          It wasn’t actual philosophical talk, she just called it that.

          So you only thought your GF was wrong? I guess that’s better, but it would be much better if you could be more open minded in your relationship too.

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            1 year ago

            I came here for advice and opinions, not to be scolded. You should really practice the way you give “advice”. I’m sure you’re aware it’s a different concept than giving orders.

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              1 year ago

              Good lord, when somebody makes a suggestion you disagree with you think it’s an order. I’m done talking to you, I hope you’ll manage to find the help you need some day.