I’ve spent some time reflecting yesterday and I realized that. When people want you to be confident they don’t want you to be actually confident, they want you to pretend you are. It is idiotic and makes no sense, but it explains a lot of situations in which I behaved the wrong way.

confidence to me means the opposite of that. it means questioning your asssumptions, approaching things from a different angle, reflect, recalculate, asking for a second opinion. Because I’ll end up with greater confidence that my assertions are more truthful. But apparently doing all that makes people think I’m insecure. Shit!

  • fluke@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Exactly. It depends on the severity of the negative outcome.

    It’s one thing to be confident in directions, it’s another to be confident in a pre flight check list for a 737. That’s why there’s appropriate guidelines that dictate how to conduct the latter.

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      1 year ago

      Haha yes. If I ever overhear a pilot tell the other to “just be more confident” during pre-flight check, I’m getting the hell off that plane.