• Dashi@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    “Necrod” for responding to a response to me when i haven’t checked lemmy messages in 2 days so i didn’t know anyone responded to me? Ffs man/woman/whatever. I just responded to the two other people that responded to me as well.

    Also I’m pro choice, all about people having the choice of abortions. I never once said don’t get an abortion. And if you are to lazy to read the whole response why respond? I’m just out here trying to have a semi intelligent conversation.

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          1 year ago

          Yeah cause its dumb. Its a sweeping generalization that takes into account nothing of either party. I’m saying this as someone who chose to stay and morally agrees with you. But in reality the “man up and take the child” stance morphs into abusive parents quite often. It sucks cause you want everyone to have a fair chance and be raised like they should, but it doesn’t take into account if either parent is even able to emotionally and materially provide that. Its a shit ton of work caring for and raising children.

          Edit: and before you say “then they shouldn’t be fukkin’,” I just won’t bother if that is your argument.

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            1 year ago

            I never said “man up and take the child” i said man up and take responsibility. There are uncountable different issues with sticking together for the kid and some reasons why it isn’t feasible to have a abortion. Sometimes the best choice for the kid is abortion, sometimes it is the father just fucks right off and sends monthly child support, and sometimes it is sticking together as a couple because you want to be together and raise a family with the kid.

            What is not acceptable is fighting in court for years to disown a child that is yours and you know it but you do not want to pay because it was a fling and you don’t want the responsibility. Well, to fucking bad, you fucked around now deal. All they have to do is send money once a month, sure it sucks, but to fucking bad. Man up and take responsibility.

            I have friends that constantly fight to get money from their exs for child support and it’s fucked up that they have to deal with that on top of being a single parent.