What would be a good sign coming out of such people?

  • RickRussell_CA@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Or maybe it’s because I have a special needs child and I can’t always leave them alone, even for a minute or two?

    When you make snap judgments based on initial appearance, that’s precisely the kind of error you can make.

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      1 year ago

      What error, exactly? If someone makes a choice and doesn’t take responsibility for that choice, there’s no error in judgment calling that person irresponsible. Mitigating circumstances like a person’s childcare situation are only mitigating circumstances because there was irresponsibility in the first place to mitigate. It’s still irresponsibility. There was no error.

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        . Mitigating circumstances like a person’s childcare situation are only mitigating circumstances because there was irresponsibility in the first place to mitigate. It’s still irresponsibility.

        I took the cart into the store to shop with my cognitively disabled child. This was a responsible decision.

        Due to my child’s medical disability and changing circumstances resulting in a behavior meltdown, I had to take him back to the car and stay with him, to prevent elopement that could put him and others at risk. This was a responsible decision. Due to the changing circumstances, I can’t return the shopping cart to a particular location.

        At no point do I abdicate responsibility. My first responsibility is to the safety of my child, and others who might suffer if he elopes. If you think I’m a bad person who “gives zero shits” because I put that first, then I call that error.

        If you want to live in you self-righteous bubble and judge people from afar without knowing jack squat about their circumstances, I call that error. I’m sure my situation is not unique; issues must come up all the time with children, pets, the elderly that necessitate putting a shopping cart aside and attending to the needs of others, and it’s not always possible to return the shopping cart.

        I can’t stop you from making an error, of course, but I’d hope than when the error is explained to you, you’d commit to avoiding it.

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          If you want to live in you self-righteous bubble and judge people from afar without knowing jack squat about their circumstances, I call that error.

          This is exactly what she/he has been doing here unfortunately.

    • idiomaddict@feddit.de
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      Red flags aren’t always accurate. That’s the point, it’s a quick gut check, not a foolproof way to analyze someone’s worth. Your neighbor who stares too long and had red stains on his shirt could be a surgeon with myopia, but there are some red flags.