• someone [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    6 days ago

    There’s actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm.

    Absolutely right. It’s one of the reasons I have to vet potential sub partners carefully. I’m very tired of doing all the planning work only to have someone flake at the last minute. I’m long done with casual hookups. Especially the “discreet” crowd.

    It’s like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.

    Oh my god it totally is, I never thought about it that way.

      • someone [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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        5 days ago

        Whoa, let’s not get carried away! I don’t want friends and family to know I’m into any of that weird stuff. I can’t imagine trying to look any of them in the eye when they know all about how I’m into that depraved passtime, keeping tight control of others in a dark room late at night, making them bend to my will.

        I’m fine with them knowing about my kinky sex life though.

      • PolandIsAStateOfMind@lemmygrad.ml
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        5 days ago

        Huh, just week ago one of my friends told me the joke:

        What BDSM and D&D have in common? Never enough dungeon masters.

        I think he wanted to suggest something to me but i’m long past playing D&D and he won’t make me go back. I also told him he’s a filthy revisionist because no way i’m getting into weird theory combinations like Bakunin-Deng-Stalin-Mao syncretism.