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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/WeekMaleficent6736 on 2023-08-24 12:15:46.

I 23F married my husband (Josh) 26M 2 years ago. He works at his family company with his dad. 1 month ago I gave birth to our beautiful daughter Sarah. My MIL is very religious and old schooled and even made a whole fuss when we decided to live in our own home when we married. Last week we were supposed to stay 3 nights because there was a meeting at the company. My husband asked me if I was willing to go and I said yes.

My MIL got 2 rooms ready. My husbands room for him and another room for me and the baby. Josh asked why and my MIL said “well you have to get up early tomorrow and the baby won’t let you sleep”. My husband said that it was not needed and we would sleep together like always. In the evening me and Josh went to bathe Sarah MIL said that it was inappropriate for Josh to bathe Sarah because she is a girl. While having dinner Josh took Sarah from me so I could eat and BIL complimented on how helpful Josh was. Then the wife of BIL commented “usually moms do this whatever”. (SIL doesn’t like me cause I have never been like them while SIL and BIL still live with MIL and FIL).

Finally we went to bed and Sarah woke up in the middle of the night. Josh woke up and said he’d take care of her. A few minutes later MIL and SIL stormed in to my room and said “Wake up Sarah is crying” I said “josh is taking care of her” and she said “aren’t you the mother? Josh has a meeting in the morning”. Then Josh came in the room with Sarah asleep and he told MIL and SIL to leave.

When we woke up at 7am Sarah was gone. Me and Josh ran downstairs and MIL had taken Sarah to the garden. I ran in tears and got my baby and MIL said “well all you do is sleep”. Josh told MIL she should have let us know even if it was just with a note. At the breakfast table MIL and SIL both commented on how I let my husband do everything. I snapped and said "well I didn’t make this baby alone. The father is right here and parenting is done by both parents. If needed he will be sleepless he will feed her bathe her and dress her. Josh doesn’t mind helping out so why is it any of your concern? You should ask yourselves what you were doing in the room of a married man without even knocking the door instead of commenting on how bad of a mom I am. I told SIL “if you know it so much better go f*cking make your own child” Keep your noses out of my marriage and mind your own goddamn business.

I left the table and Josh came with me and told me to pack my bag and we would go to our home. We have 2 workers in our home who live with us. Josh brought me home went to the meeting and came back. He even apologized for taking me there when he knew his mom. My phone has been blowing up with YTA messages from people. Husband, SIL (husband’s bio sister), BIL and my family are on my side. FIL doesn’t pick sides and SIL, MIL and their religious old school friends/ family are blowing my phone up. So AITA?