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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Mindless_Leg_7443 on 2023-08-22 21:02:31.


My husband is Indian and I’m white. We live in a house provided by MY grandparents. He has his citizenship because of me. His parents came to visit and it’s been an issue that I’m not a dutiful daughter in law while they are guests in my home.

For some reason they think after I work a whole week I should come home and cater to them because that’s what I should do. My husband is currently laid off work on unemployment and I’m not. It finally came to a head last night over dinner and he asked me if I just could respect his parents and show them I’m trying to impress them.

We got in a huge argument and I said I could always divorce his son and tell the courts he’s using me for citizenship because that’s how I feel and it’s time they go back to India and this vacation is over. My husband argued with me about it and I told him to try me because he is unemployed and we have only been married under two years. I have no desire to be bullied by his parents and wait on them while they are vacationing with me. I was told I was disrespectful and they have no extra money to get another lodging right now. I’m this close to divorce because the last two weeks that they have visited have been hell and I’m stressed. Up until this point we had a great marriage but his parents are making me rethink everything.

  • BadAdvice@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    This lady clearly did zero research before marrying into an Indian family lmfao the culture of women in India is horribly oppressed. They’re closer to family property than actual realized individuals. Kinda deserved it tbh

  • intensely_human@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I think OP should find a way to deal with conflict that involves not going straight to the nuclear option.