• Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    Look I don’t think a was being racist I was just trying to cover my bases because I’ve been told I’m terrible at not just thinking everyone I see is white, you know unless it’s super obvious

    I only really felt comfortable saying what I said because I was like 99 percent sure she wasn’t from some group where that would be a slur against her, the ableist thing was me assuming that look based stuff would be covered under that

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      4 months ago

      Maybe the better thing to concentrate on is why you felt like that comment was necessary. You didn’t seem to have a goal behind it, other than drawing more attention. It’s really not relevant to the discussion or the post. So why post it? It felt like your intention was just to talk shit about a random person, and maybe you should think about that.

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        4 months ago

        uh sure I just have never seen something like that before like I had to check both sides of the image to make sure her face wasn’t edited too

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          We get it: she’s not your type. She is out having fun with her boyfriend having a drink. Honestly, your language just seems like mean juvenile bullying shit.

          She, or people she knows, may end up reading your bullying post.

          Honestly, did you really hope to learn something from your comment or gain a perspective? No, of course it’s fucking bullying.

          How does her ethnic background or facial characteristics (as shown in a single photo while she’s out with her boyfriend at a cocktail place) relate to the funny part of the tweet? Can’t it just be a funny tweet?

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            4 months ago

            I never thought I was bullying, I didn’t think I said anything that would be offensive in person or make her day worse

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              4 months ago

              Bullies often don’t realise what they’re doing is bullying. It was just a bit of bants, you shouldn’t be so sensitive about it.

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                4 months ago

                I don’t want to hide behind ignorance but ya I’m really not that good at making jokes most of the times but I don’t think I’ve ever made anyone upper with them

                • VicksVaporBBQrub@sh.itjust.worksM
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                  That’s cool. This sub\community is very lighthearted. It is also very international. Cool tip: if you happen to catch yourself on a word or phrase that wasn’t inert\commonplace\or a opps-i-didn’t-know-it-was-even-a-thing… I myself just take the hit, put that in my to-do box, and move on. I have plenty other funny bones to contribute.

                  In a nutshell that’s the internet-- no one asks you to hide or change yourself, but flamewar can happen like a diesel truck thru a nitroglycerin factory.