The thing about five year olds is that they don’t communicate like adults. Also adults suck as well. Go work in retail or a restaurant for a week and tell me about how understanding adults are.
I have a client now who wants a replacement part that my employer hasn’t made since 2002, explained that and he demanded that I walk him through the repair process. Guy this thing was out of warranty for 21 years.
Sure a 5 year old doesn’t have the vocabulary and mental fortitude to understand or explain the concept.
But if you have a child, you raise them for 5 years, I assume you care about them. You can explain “Can you help mommy set the table?” or “Can you pass daddy the plates?”
You don’t need to explain the process of your work and the commute and other things. But if you just explained things to your children, they’ll understand. When my parents did, I got to understood the task and why they wanted it. When my mother or my boss barked orders without any understanding why or how, I was left more confused.
And trust me, I worked retail, most people are fine, some people are real pieces of work. I still have some horror stories of customers, some frequent, some once or twice. But what got me out of every single one, was talking it out. From a dude who had literally half of his skull and brain missing, to my co-workers, to the average customer I forgot by the end of my shift.
I don’t understand what you are implying here. How does her lack of communication skills determine having children? Let alone specifically with her husband?
Nah we want you to start all your fucking about, get any beverage or condiments you might want, wash your hands, and have everyone at the table ready to eat when the food is ready.
And subsequently, not get any criticism while we’ve finished our meal and you’ve just sat down because you had to go to the garage to get a new bottle of OJ, pee that became a poop, wash your hands, and find the sauce you’ve suddenly decided to dig out from the back of the pantry.
“Hey can you help me finish dinner? Make sure the table is set up. Maybe grade some cheese.” Done.
“Dinner is ready! I didn’t mean it was ready-ready, I just used the wrong set of words to explain my desires and needs. Why are you upset that I’m not using the words in the language I thought you? Never mind, I clearly didn’t need any help according to you.”
If you’re adult, talk like one. If you’re a parent, communicate and act like one.
mothers who do this probably want company/help in the kitchen
Then she should communicate this lile an adult.
The thing about five year olds is that they don’t communicate like adults. Also adults suck as well. Go work in retail or a restaurant for a week and tell me about how understanding adults are.
I have a client now who wants a replacement part that my employer hasn’t made since 2002, explained that and he demanded that I walk him through the repair process. Guy this thing was out of warranty for 21 years.
Sure a 5 year old doesn’t have the vocabulary and mental fortitude to understand or explain the concept.
But if you have a child, you raise them for 5 years, I assume you care about them. You can explain “Can you help mommy set the table?” or “Can you pass daddy the plates?”
You don’t need to explain the process of your work and the commute and other things. But if you just explained things to your children, they’ll understand. When my parents did, I got to understood the task and why they wanted it. When my mother or my boss barked orders without any understanding why or how, I was left more confused.
And trust me, I worked retail, most people are fine, some people are real pieces of work. I still have some horror stories of customers, some frequent, some once or twice. But what got me out of every single one, was talking it out. From a dude who had literally half of his skull and brain missing, to my co-workers, to the average customer I forgot by the end of my shift.
if she was capable of that she wouldn’t have had kids with the dad 😝
I don’t understand what you are implying here. How does her lack of communication skills determine having children? Let alone specifically with her husband?
Nah we want you to start all your fucking about, get any beverage or condiments you might want, wash your hands, and have everyone at the table ready to eat when the food is ready.
And subsequently, not get any criticism while we’ve finished our meal and you’ve just sat down because you had to go to the garage to get a new bottle of OJ, pee that became a poop, wash your hands, and find the sauce you’ve suddenly decided to dig out from the back of the pantry.
“Hey can you help me finish dinner? Make sure the table is set up. Maybe grade some cheese.” Done.
“Dinner is ready! I didn’t mean it was ready-ready, I just used the wrong set of words to explain my desires and needs. Why are you upset that I’m not using the words in the language I thought you? Never mind, I clearly didn’t need any help according to you.”
If you’re adult, talk like one. If you’re a parent, communicate and act like one.