• 1984@lemmy.today
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    1 year ago

    Never compliment ladies you don’t know about how they look, it comes off as creepy. Doesnt matter who does it.

    You wouldn’t walk up to a random guy and give a compliment right? So you need to start from the beginning and get to know her, just like a guy friend.

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      1 year ago

      Honestly I think we should normalize giving compliments to each other. It’s kind of sad that it feels weird to give another guy a compliment and creepy giving a girl a compliment.

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        1 year ago

        Absolutely. It used to be appriciated by girls when a guy gives a compliment but things are very different today.

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      1 year ago

      I am a man and I absolutely have given other men compliments. Specifically their shirts if they’re a band I like and I’ve received those too. I am very happy when someone compliments my attire or hair.

      I think we should normalize giving each other compliments regardless of gender, as another user said. Of course it shouldn’t be like an exaggerated amount but it would be nice to prop each other up and boost all our confidences. I think that we could tell each other nice things more often. We could certainly be kinder to one another.

      • Samuraipizzacat@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        Same. I’ve given men and women compliments and have gotten random compliments from both. Usually tshirts or hair styles or tattoos that run close to what I like. I think it’s more about how it’s said. Informal compliments are best as it doesn’t put assumptions on the other side. “That’s a cool hair ribbon” is different than “I love when you wear your hair ribbons”. The assumption of feelings isn’t in the first one. More compliments should be given out freely if you genuinely feel a certain way. Just don’t go full lovestruck on the ice breaker.