• Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    7 months ago

    I’m not mad. I haven’t called you any childish names, or did anything else that would indicate anger. That would be you and you alone, and unless you go and start editing your posts anyone can clearly see that.

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      7 months ago

      I’m gonna be real, looking through your account, you seem like a bioessentialist. Potentially a terf, though one that hides it well.

      Some of the things you’ve said are rooted in bioessentialism and come off as very backhanded which I’m assuming set off the other commenter’s alarm bells. Quit the act or educate yourself from a trans positive feminist angle, whichever fits your role better.

      for anyone that happens to read this and feels lost, here is a good place to start with what bioessentialism is and why it’s linked to terfs.

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        7 months ago

        I have nothing against trans people, I’ve said nothing against trans people. I didn’t know of this term “bioessentialism,” but thanks to you, I’ve just looked it up. It does not describe my views. I am 100% aware of the concept of people being genetically one way while having a different gender. There is nothing wrong with this at all. I have never said anything remotely like that.

        This other commenter is not serious. They are pretending to be trans in order to make them look bad. I don’t know why they are so hateful, but at this point, there really is no other explanation. There is no reason they would be so awful to someone trying to learn.

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          7 months ago

          eat shit

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          I didn’t know of this term “bioessentialism,” but thanks to you, I’ve just looked it up.

          yeah i sure fucking hope you did, i linked an article.

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            7 months ago

            The article didn’t show up. I appreciate you introducing me to a new term. The whole point of me being here is to learn.

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              lmao “new term” right okay so you have somehow encountered the word “genetic men” and all these terf ass arguments and points, but you have never heard of a terf or of bioessentialism.

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                7 months ago

                This is what I think happened. Some assholes somehow convinced you that anyone who isn’t already super knowledgeable about this stuff has to be evil with deep secret motives. Now, when anyone asks questions or doesn’t know certain things, you immediately go into psycho vicious attack mode. This only serves to benefit the asshole. It makes you come across as an absolute asshole who hates anyone who tries to learn. They tricked you. If you want to beat them, then just be kind and quit assuming everyone is out to get you.

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                  It’s pattern recognition as a survival strategy.

                  You’re talking to someone part of a vulnerable and marginalized minority group, they’re going to be on edge because of so many people that treat us like shit or literally want us dead.

                  Wanna know how to make sure trans people don’t attack you when you (assuming in good faith) “just ask questions?” Don’t be argumentative when they tell you something contrary to your preexisting beliefs.

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                    7 months ago

                    I’m sorry that people have been so very bad to them. I know it sucks. I can’t imagine what it is like. I can’t relate to what someone must have gone through to make them so angry about questions and common expressions. It must be awful. I feel like it would require an absolute expert to be able to navigate this minefield of potential triggers, and I highly doubt that the average person will be able to do it any time soon, if ever. This isn’t just “be kind” and everything will be alright. This is “if you don’t have memorized a whole bunch of stuff or if you are new to it, then you will be shouted down and called a bunch of names and told what a bigot you are”.

                    Nobody can be expected to immediately be at that point. This is a perfect recipe for a self-fulfilling prophecy of misunderstandings and ongoing hate. The people who are winning from all this are the people who want there to be needless fights. It’s not my place to speak to how traumatized people should behave, so I won’t do that. All I can say is that most people I know would much rather avoid conversations that have such a high chance of being so accidentally aggressive and as a result this wall isn’t going to come down any time soon.

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                    If you are being serious right now, then it absolutely is difficult. You taught me terf. I never know about them before I met you. I have no talking points. I’m a random curious person with no affiliations, I’ve never voted, I’ve never been a part of any group that has anything to do with trans people.

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        7 months ago

        Thanks, I see the article now. It must have been part of the edit, so I missed it before. I appreciate you taking the time to make the link.

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      7 months ago

      TERF isn’t name calling, it’s a description of your beliefs. the fact that you see it as such shows me you are one, terfs are the only ppl who refer to “terf” as a slur

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        No, it is a description of the beliefs that you seem to think every cis person has to have. This is because you seem to want to lump all cis people(which you repeatedly call for the demise of - to the point of mods needing to repeatedly removing your bigotted comments) into this category. Or at least the BS persona you are pretending to be “believes”.

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            7 months ago

            This sums it up exactly. Anyone who asks questions and tries to learn is your direct enemy. That is what you stand for. You try to stop education and awareness. Whether you know it or not, I can’t tell, but it is what it is. You attack inquisitive minds by trying to make them feel like questions mean bigotry. This is horrendous behavior.

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              7 months ago

              trans ppl know which questions are real questions and which questions are rhetoric devices by assholes like you

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                7 months ago

                Alright, I can see you are just continuing on. I tried. You need to look deep inside yourself and decide if you really want to keep up this strange charade.

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                    7 months ago

                    Everything you know about the trans community you have learned through a lens of hate and bigotry against them. Maybe if you want to role-play a trans person badly, then there might be something there that you are not admitting to yourself. If you change one thing about yourself and choose love above all else, then you will be much better off.

                    There is nothing “wrong” with trans people. There is no reason for you to put so much effort into your hateful mindset. They are people just like anyone else. Just because they are different from you doesn’t mean you need to spend your time trying to destroy them. Quite frankly, you will fail. You are one person on a hateful rampage. You are too weak to destroy a whole group of people. I don’t know what religion or what is behind your blind hate, but I assure you that it is not real.

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        7 months ago

        I literally never heard of this term until you started blasting it over and over. I had no idea. I looked them up because you kept calling me them so much. If you are not intentionally trying to get them exposure, then you are sorely missing your mark. Thanks to YOU, I am aware of them. 100% die to you. That’s the effect you are having. It is absurd to act like I’m one of them.

        If you are not extremely anti-trans then you have gotten so twisted up in a truly remarkable way. I highly highly doubt that.

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            7 months ago

            Most likely one of your other accounts.

            However, in the off chance that you are genuine and just misguided, here is the explanation of the whole genetic male/female thing that you may be misunderstanding. Genetic sex is real, but it is not the same thing as gender. Someone can be a genetic “male” but have the gender “woman”. This is an example of a “transgender” person. I know I’m probably just falling into your trap again, but in the off chance that you are genuinely interested and just a bit confused, this is what the situation is. I hope it helps.