• jopepa@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    It sounds like you’re suggesting self compassion is a lack of self-accountability, but they aren’t the same. So your premise is flawed.

    People care because it comes naturally to us, people that can’t or don’t have personality disorders and that’s a different burden to live with. Even they don’t deserve to be trapped in depression and self hatred and nobody ever got better by hurting themselves.

    Apathy sucks. It’s lazy, boring, not as cool as your nihilistic antiheroes have led you to believe, and is just a bummer to be around.

    I don’t want to keep enaging with your negatively, but sincerely hope you’re doing okay and finding healthy happiness in your life.

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      9 months ago

      Nah I’m just countering with you have no concept of what their person is going through and casual well wishes are meaningless to a person drowning. The situation one finds themselves in is often a myriad of outcomes not entirely based on self and can still leave a person feeling defeated.

      It’s probably true that I don’t know what it’s like to be the average person but also the idea of average is flawed and comes from a self centered perspective of normal.

      So I’m sharing mine. A different perspective for the drowning person not of self love but of a need to swim as hard as they can and give the audience the show they can muster if they want to. But it’s mostly a game of understanding how far you can get and hoping there might be more. I won’t offer anything but practical advice.

      I find the people who are joining hands and singing about how we are all friends to be boring to be around too. And not helpful in times of need. Apathy is not a great answer but just being sure that you love yourself and aware of how you are in a situation doesn’t equate to much at the end of the show.

      Existence is fleeting and not guaranteed. People will aim to extend theirs and as an afterthought, others. So you decide how much you want out of it. Ignore the crowd and the boos and get on with dying.