Don’t use fear to program your kids. You’re confirming the existence of the boogie man to a child, imagine how traumatic it could be for the kid to be left alone in the dark once you leave.
There has to be a better way. Not saying this is messing your kid, I just think it could mess someone’s kid. Kids have pretty vivid imagination, I’d never tell them monsters that want to kill them on their sleep exist.
We have tried almost everything else (talking to him about it, puppet play where one puppet reads a story to the other one, us reading stories to each other, etc.), but nothing worked. He’s just stubborn, he’s like that, ever since he was a toddler. The first word he learned was “no” 😂… and it was the only thing he said for a very long time (3 or 4 months). Why? He just doesn’t like to learn new things 🤷. Actually, he does, but only what peaks HIS interest. Son, that’s not how life works…
And I never told him the boogie man was gonna kill us, just get us. He asked me once where is he gonna take us, I told him he was gonna take us far far away and we won’t see anyone ever again, not mommy, not grandma/grandpa, not Sofie (this girl from kindergarten he really likes 😂), no one. In fact, he told us a few times (while he was enraged over god knows what, he can be like that) that he was gonna beat us up… have no idea where he heard that, maybe some of the cartoons he watches, IDK… or maybe kindergarten 🤷. Still, we had a nice little talk over this and I think he started grasping the gravity of what he said because he mentioned it only once after that and immediately showed remourse (he doesn’t like to say he’s sorry… you have to get it out of him with pliers, lol 😂).
Don’t use fear to program your kids. You’re confirming the existence of the boogie man to a child, imagine how traumatic it could be for the kid to be left alone in the dark once you leave.
There has to be a better way. Not saying this is messing your kid, I just think it could mess someone’s kid. Kids have pretty vivid imagination, I’d never tell them monsters that want to kill them on their sleep exist.
We have tried almost everything else (talking to him about it, puppet play where one puppet reads a story to the other one, us reading stories to each other, etc.), but nothing worked. He’s just stubborn, he’s like that, ever since he was a toddler. The first word he learned was “no” 😂… and it was the only thing he said for a very long time (3 or 4 months). Why? He just doesn’t like to learn new things 🤷. Actually, he does, but only what peaks HIS interest. Son, that’s not how life works…
And I never told him the boogie man was gonna kill us, just get us. He asked me once where is he gonna take us, I told him he was gonna take us far far away and we won’t see anyone ever again, not mommy, not grandma/grandpa, not Sofie (this girl from kindergarten he really likes 😂), no one. In fact, he told us a few times (while he was enraged over god knows what, he can be like that) that he was gonna beat us up… have no idea where he heard that, maybe some of the cartoons he watches, IDK… or maybe kindergarten 🤷. Still, we had a nice little talk over this and I think he started grasping the gravity of what he said because he mentioned it only once after that and immediately showed remourse (he doesn’t like to say he’s sorry… you have to get it out of him with pliers, lol 😂).
Have you had him tested for ADHD?
No, there are no test like this where I live, we’d have to go abroad for that.