I used to be less-than-feeling-bothered about how a lot of people feel about my asexuality, I always thought it was just a simple hiccup in the science community, but over time let’s just say the revelations have sunk in as disheartening. I’ve been a pariah because of it, it’s the most common talking point when I see people jab at me, and even amongst acquaintances I’m told they’re dismissive of anyone saying they’re asexual.
Psychiatrists have told me it’s a flaw of mine, family members would think of me suspicious for it, and when I later found out the acquaintances of mine (who I still consider friends to an extent) are into Jordan Peterson (you probably know where this is going), I though “maybe I can paraphrase this great genius in their presence to help my case”, only to realize he is no genius and actually champions the idea of asexual dismissal. Pardon my French, but how hard is it to effing say “intimacy is NOT a given?”
Up until recently, asexuality hasn’t had any widespread slurs, but the label “worthless” really does it when you want a deep connection just like everyone else. Recently however, some slurs have developed, though for obvious reasons you’ll have to look them up, as this is Lemmy.
How does exactly Jordan Peterson dismiss asexuality there?
He is asked by someone self defining as asexual: how can I do to have kids, I have not felt sexual connections but want to create children with my wife.
Then he answers the questions, like “hey, if you really wanna do this, you can try this steps. Also, you can explore if you are really asexual (see, he acknowledges there asexual exists) or if maybe it has roots on something else, and you should explore that as well”
How is that dismissing, did I miss something?
If it is because something in the lines of “well, you cannot tell people they maybe arent what they identify as” then Ok i guess. I don’t agree, I think a professional should explore all possibilities, especially when it is generaring discomfort to someone (as is the case with the person asking), but that’s just my opinion.
If it’s not in that line, I may have missed something.
I used to be less-than-feeling-bothered about how a lot of people feel about my asexuality, I always thought it was just a simple hiccup in the science community, but over time let’s just say the revelations have sunk in as disheartening. I’ve been a pariah because of it, it’s the most common talking point when I see people jab at me, and even amongst acquaintances I’m told they’re dismissive of anyone saying they’re asexual.
Psychiatrists have told me it’s a flaw of mine, family members would think of me suspicious for it, and when I later found out the acquaintances of mine (who I still consider friends to an extent) are into Jordan Peterson (you probably know where this is going), I though “maybe I can paraphrase this great genius in their presence to help my case”, only to realize he is no genius and actually champions the idea of asexual dismissal. Pardon my French, but how hard is it to effing say “intimacy is NOT a given?”
Up until recently, asexuality hasn’t had any widespread slurs, but the label “worthless” really does it when you want a deep connection just like everyone else. Recently however, some slurs have developed, though for obvious reasons you’ll have to look them up, as this is Lemmy.
Weird how sex is simultaneously taboo and expected of people.
How does exactly Jordan Peterson dismiss asexuality there?
He is asked by someone self defining as asexual: how can I do to have kids, I have not felt sexual connections but want to create children with my wife.
Then he answers the questions, like “hey, if you really wanna do this, you can try this steps. Also, you can explore if you are really asexual (see, he acknowledges there asexual exists) or if maybe it has roots on something else, and you should explore that as well”
How is that dismissing, did I miss something?
If it is because something in the lines of “well, you cannot tell people they maybe arent what they identify as” then Ok i guess. I don’t agree, I think a professional should explore all possibilities, especially when it is generaring discomfort to someone (as is the case with the person asking), but that’s just my opinion.
If it’s not in that line, I may have missed something.